the week and pictures

i took a little break from writing lately. mostly because there wasn't time to write about kano in general and i needed a little time out for some personal stuff. 4 weeks at home are now starting to feel too short. i barely just got here and i m about to go back so i'm trying to use my time wisely and i have put aside taking pictures etc.(the truth is that i'm wondering if i shouldn't stay here for another month) in addition to that i got sick for a few days, and a few days were taken up by one of my best friends who came to visit me for the weekend. i was looking forward to his visit but i never expected it too be so painful. he got majorly fucked in the past three years and in a way i can not say that i don't feel that i had a part in it. life hasn't been good to some of us.
we grew up in a very specific environment missionary school in a small peaceful town, where we were surrounded by people who kept there eye out on us and were the rules were totally different then the one's of the outside world. we were sheltered from a lot of situations, such as first clashes with sex and drugs. our problems were a little different. we would get in trouble for saying "shut up" or other silly violations. i remember one day when i was walking hand in hand with one of my best friends around school and the school psychologist approached us and scalded us for breaking the schools regulations. at first i didn't know what she had in mind. then she told us that we were too close to each other. the school had a rule about keeping a distance of at least the width of a bible between a girl and a boy. i laughed because i thought she was joking. i soon found out she was dead serious. only a handful of people smoked cigarettes when we were in high school ( almost never on the school campus). kissing was also a very rare sight and even the most long term couples didn't do much more then kiss. those were our school problems but when we finished school we were all sent to europe or the states were we were on our own and were the world was a bit more cruel. a lot of people i know got married soon after high school; some because they had to (kids were on the way) others because they thought that it was the best thing to do (they did believe very strongly that sex before marriage is a sin) and a big percentage of them are unhappy. yet still the majority of us managed to handle it quite well.